| > I have MANY female friends who have been in my life for decades and I have zero sexual attraction to them You may be at one extreme of a spectrum. I have certainly known men with higher libidos than me and I find a great many of my female frinds and acquaintances attractive > (and likewise they have zero sexual attraction to me). That nothing has ever happened is extremely weak evidence of this if you're as committed to the idea that sex is as important to you as you write. > I have no idea why people perpetuate this stereotype that women and men cannot be friends. Because they're from cultures where it isn't or because their personal experince suggests it isn't. > It's entirely possible to separate the people who you want to be friends with and the people you are sexually attracted to. This suggests a level of control over feelings that normal people do not posess, not being around people you are attracted to, or very low libido. > Obviously, the women who I am sexually attracted to I don't attempt to be good friends with for fear of risking my long term relationship. This completely cuts against everything you wrote above about how it's possible to separate friendship and attraction to the appropriate sex(es). |
Having a high libido does not translate into wanting to have sex with your close friends.
> I have certainly known men with higher libidos than me and I find a great many of my female frinds and acquaintances attractive
> level of control over feelings that normal people do not posess
Normal is only normal within a culture. I've yet to see any evidence that this is biologically inherent to human beings.
> This completely cuts against everything you wrote above about how it's possible to separate friendship and attraction to the appropriate sex(es).
Given that the original claim is
> When Harry Met Sally was right. Men and women can't be friends. Eventually the sex gets in the way.
I don't see how this contradicts anything. The original claim is that sex will inevitably get in the way. The person you're replying to is claiming that there are women that they will not inevitably become sexually attracted to.