[arvinsim]

> The fundamental mistake straight men make is that they value the potential of a romantic relationship above the likelihood of a meaningful friendship.

Unfortunately, this is only something you learn after having a romantic relationship so there is the "chicken or egg" problem.

[Madmallard]

I don't think this is right at all.

I've been in several long term committed relationships. I still randomly get feelings for female friends of mine. I don't think it has to do with anything the poster above is saying. It just can happen regardless.

[phphphphp]

What do you mean by feelings? Love is a valid emotion in a friendship, I love my best friend as much as I’ve loved any partner. Feelings are not inherently romantic, romantic love is a choice.

Do you mean you find yourself lusting after your friends? If so, you should think about why that is and why you allow it to control your relationships, because lust as a catalyst for the compromise of a friendship is terrible for all involved.

Your life will improve substantially when you begin to treat all friendships, regardless of gender, as distinct, complex and meaningful relationships.

[Madmallard]

What you're saying is subjective but you're acting as if it is objective.