[Shamii]

My grandpa had dementia due to his age.

When I visited him for the last time he knew who I was.

But he clearly repeated very similar behavior patterns.

He also showed clear signs of not remembering 'state'. Like time or location.

It was very hard for me because that gave me the feeling that he as a person was gone.

I cried after that for a while and it was basically me saying good bye .

My sister didn't see it like that. She didn't mind doing a sleepover and having her daughter with her. My mother also glanced over that. My other sister agreed on my thoughts.

I liked that she didn't see it like that and spend time with him but I could not do that.

Of course I might be wrong. I don't assume I know how he thought but what else to assume?

I don't think I could do that if my wife started to show similar pattern.

[snapcore]

Well, you only feel in the present, so he did feel things even though he may not have been who he used to be. We all are shifting and changing anyway, and our memories give us a sense of coherency, but the present is who we are most readily.

And, it can be terrifying to not know where you are or who you are for some people in those moments. So maybe he found some comfort in those moments with that one sister. That's how I think about it.