[_57jb]

You might have an approach that is unlikable.

I say this because I am exactly that. I often cut straight to the point and can't really read the room. I think I'm helping and being brutally honest when in reality it comes off condescending or arrogant.

I heard a quote that I really like, honesty without kindness is cruelty. That helped me rethink my approach towards how I communicate.

[isoprophlex]

> I think I'm helping and being brutally honest when in reality it comes off condescending or arrogant.

> honesty without kindness is cruelty

That is so very spot on. I strongly identify with this, great quote.

[willcipriano]

The alternative is the Willy Wonka mindset. You tell them the right thing to do and half heartedly say "No... stop... don't"[0] as they go with the plan that is presented in a manner more conducive to their ego and feelings.

If I wanted to go through the song and dance of buttering everyone up so they will do what I say, why bother coming up with a good idea as well? I'd just say the first thing that comes to mind. In fact, that might be why the ideas that get acted upon tend to be so bad. What's the point of the quality of the idea has no impact in it's odds for adoption?

[0]https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=uVdDXeYM4ss

[mettamage]

Thanks, this helps.