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> dons flamesuit (IME no-BS dating advice for men on HN is rarely well-received)

I mean, when you say stuff like

> don't date African-American women

> find a wife outside The West with good domestic skills

> don't repatriate your spouse

It's hard to take your overall advice seriously, even if some of it (like not needing to get legally married). It seems more like you're looking for a servant than a partner, and it's very "trad-wife" esque.

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I'm operating from a value framework that aims for building and maintaining multi-generational wealth. The family unit is the most basic, and arguably most important, institution over which we can exert influence. Can't link a relevant book on the subject (sorry, don't have my Amazon purchase history handy), but examine the practices of families that have been wealthy for in excess of 3 generations, and you will often find patterns of behavior that are completely contrary to "conventional wisdom" about marriage, relationships, dating, and family life....especially in the age of third-wave feminism.

>>> like you're looking for a servant than a partner

Who is more the servant, the adult who has the option to spend an entire day inside a physically-secure domicile, or the adult who risks death stepping outside the home 5 days per week (men make up 90% of workplace fatalities, and simply commuting to work on US roadways is a high risk activity)?

We recognize that labor specialization and comparative advantage are some of the most basic and powerful amplifiers of efficiency in an economy. Why would we not apply the same principles to our own household?

Or we can keep doing what we are doing, listening to the advice of charlatans [1]. That has led to women on anti-depressants [2], women unhappy [3][4], single parent (overwhelmingly single mother) homes [5] producing higher rates of maladjusted children [6], and a slew of other issues. Who paid for Cosmo to publish trash for decades? Qui bono? Maybe the same people who leveraged Edward Bernays to get men to buy diamonds? Why would we blindly embracing nerfing the efficiency of the economic and social construct that directly benefits us the most (the family unit)? Meanwhile the richest ~500 FAMILIES in the US are basically robbing the rest of us blind.

>>>it's very "trad-wife" esque

Sure, and it may be strange to those living in the West, but outside the West, "trad-wife" is rather popular with women. Hence why I would overwhelming encourage American men to abandon the US dating market and find what they are looking for elsewhere.

[1] https://www.suzannevenker.com/the-suzanne-suzanne-venker-sho...

[2] https://www.upi.com/Health_News/2020/09/04/Antidepressant-us...

[3] https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/may/18/womens-...

[4] https://law.yale.edu/sites/default/files/documents/pdf/Intel...

[5] https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2019/12/12/u-s-childre...

[6] https://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2012/12/the-real-c...

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> Sure, and it may be strange to those living in the West, but outside the West, "trad-wife" is rather popular with women.

While I'm not sure that I agree with you in general, you are absolutely right about this. My Russian (girl)friends won't stop going on about how sorry they feel for the poor career oriented western women wasting their lives at the office working for someone else, when they could instead be working on their family.

It's not like these girls are lazy either, many of them work full time to look beautiful. A fair bargain for many husbands.

But I guess westerners are likely to view this either as abusive or transactional, not a healthy relationship. They'd be wrong though.