Maybe I'm too optimistic, but I feel like you're describing the intellectual vacuum that is Reddit. I've found conversation here to be much more nuanced, at least since the start of 2021.
I've found people here to engage more and explore religion respectfully most of the time. Reddit however, I might be looking in the wrong place but respect is not something I find. Often people pick the most expressive terms they can to ensure everyone is aware of their lack of respect.
HN is more tech focused, so I get its not what folks are here to discuss (generally).