[john2010]

If you read carefully, the article meant that by accepting 'the hard truth' you have more chance to change. Of course one needs take it with +ve tone.

Quotes:

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”

Paradoxically, accepting that you’re just not a confident person and you’re always going to feel a little off around other people will begin to make you feel more comfortable and less anxious around others.