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by ibn-python 1610 days ago
Wow you described exactly what I'm starting to feel in my late 20s. Especially the point about neurotic feedback loops.
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Don't be like this person. Literally, throw away all the video game machines you own and take an extremely long walk in Tibet if needed. This is a cautionary signal. If you relate to this, you're going to throw your life away.

I was responding to a sub-thread but it got deleted before I could finish. This is what I think about this:

Someone said: >> it could be hurtful to people to attempt to archive by getting sucked into cycles of attempting to break a neurological predisposition

That's rather well put.

From the outside, some people are an abyss, permanently dominated by this type of cyclical thinking, in which getting out of the abyss creates new and interesting forms of drama. And the attraction of that gravity well to newbs who haven't e.g. been long-term alcoholics or locked up for suicidal tendencies, is precisely the fact that it gives one a temporary satisfaction (even worse, maybe, a way of lording it over others) of having addressed a particular neurotic trait, while substituting a load of other negative traits in exchange.

Nothing good ever comes out of the speech where one has repressed a particular neurosis by coming to terms with it in some crystalline fashion. It's a speech either designed to scam others, or to scam oneself.

So, in plain English, what you're saying is to not obsess over fixing neuroses because it's an addiction in itself that leads to other negative traits?
Long walk in Tibet. Sure, that's one option.

Personally, I got married and had kids. It's great. Has been for over a decade.

Never needed any far-flung travel plans or ayahuasca or Eastern religious philosophy.

> by coming to terms with it in some crystalline fashion

I’m not sure I get you. There are certainly ingenious speeches but there are genuine ones, too (probably not speeches but genuine acceptance). See “Radical Acceptu” by Tara Brach.