[mindtricks]

Most of what you have shared can be easily explained. IT trying to be responsive to you by making sure you have a laptop seems reasonable -- they may be concerned if they wait after Christmas, it would lost in the shuffle. They just made not have had the EQ to think delivery affected you, especially if you gave them address to ship it to them.

Since you're working with a tool (and want education), your manager just may want to expose you to the vendor to help you succeed. It may be that talking with the vendor in this way may not be easy to set up.

And I say this because it sounds completely normal to me for this size of a company.

That said, if "best intent" is still not enough to justify their requests and actions to you, then that's on you to decide the work style and company you like. And if you feel you have the opportunity to pursue opportunities elsewhere that best fits your comfort zone, then you should.