[meheleventyone]

That’s making an assumption one route does better than the other. How do you know your assumed correlation isn’t backwards? Or that parents staying in an unhappy and abusive marriage isn’t very traumatic on kids?

In all my long term relationships we lived together for a long period of time and only one resulted in children. So I don’t think courting was particularly required to get to know one another or find a stable situation to raise kids.

On top of which the idea that planning cool dates is a good proxy for raising kids or even long term compatibility is utterly hilarious.

And that’s dodging round the implication that the main reason to have a relationship is to have kids which isn’t true at all.