[arkx]

I don't think you understood correctly.

A wise leader surrounds themself with people they can truly trust in. In this message we see a glimpse into the dynamic between Bill Gates and Nathan Myhrvold, and my main takeaway is that Bill truly trusts Nathan here, enough to be vulnerable and speak openly about his worries.

While it's humorous and perhaps even enlightening to think of him as a "child king", I don't think he was only "seeming hurt" here or manipulating (unless you count all forms of emotional appeal as manipulation). Being honest and straight is a very effective way to lead those close to you.

It's also the leader's job to worry about threats like this and direct the attention of his advisors.

[drzaiusapelord]

I'm just not seeing your pangloss-like explanation in the real world. Gates' words are very carefully crafted. He's not being vulnerable, he's being a leader and that means engaging in the Machiavellian action of manipulation and dishonesty to get the outcome he wants. Nathan knows he's being yelled at without being yelled at, its face-saving for both of them. This is saying "Why the fuck are you sleeping on Java, your future here depends on fixing the Java problem and telling me how you're going to do it," without saying that.

That's what I was trying to point out in my original comment. The "nice" and "hurt" leader is a common ploy and it gets results.

[arkx]

I see where you're coming from in the general case; I think it has been well established that leadership positions attract people well described by the dark triad. However, I don't agree that being a leader has to revolve around manipulation and dishonesty, and I've certainly seen this in the real world.

Even if Bill Gates has the dark triad traits I do not think they were on display in this particular email exchange. I truly don't think they were engaging in any "face-saving" here -- Nathan had been working for Microsoft for 10 years at this point, leading Microsoft Research and rising to the first ever Microsoft CTO. They coauthored a book called "The Road Ahead" in 1995. Bill has called him the greatest hire he made at Microsoft.

From every single source I've come across it seems clear that Bill Gates and Nathan Myhrvold are friends and share a deep mutual respect. No wonder they are still working together in 2021! You'd think after a lifetime of supposed abuse Nathan would have stopped working with him after becoming a billionaire, right?