| > Glad to see this, as someone who has almost only been with people with depression I would gently suggest you spend some time thinking about this. What makes you seek out relationships with depressed people? I say this because I was in a similar life situation. Examining the question I just asked you very deeply helped me to a place of significant improvement for my own wellbeing. > it's now shifting to blaming "loved ones" for "failing" them. I didn't get this from the article at all. I think you are feeling some defensiveness, which is normal, but still. > This article doesn't understand how hard it is to listen to hours, days, months, years of a person you care about constantly speaking of ending their life. That's because -- as difficult as this is to accept -- in these situations the right thing to do is to leave the relationship. I would (again, gently) suggest you research codependency. Doing so would be for your own health and happiness. I know when a therapist first called me codependent it felt like an aggressive attack; I took it extremely personally. I hope you don't feel the same. Just trying to help a fellow HNer. |