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by jules 5401 days ago
So it's not a date, but you do have to have 3 men and 3 women? If it's not a date, then why the gender requirement? And why match on attractiveness?

If it is a date but for whatever reason they don't want to say so (I'm guessing because of the social stigma around online dating in some circles -- check out the description of Blendr: it's exactly like Grindr but it's totally different), what about gay people?
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timsally 5401 days ago
So it's not a date, but you do have to have 3 men and 3 women? If it's not a date, then why the gender requirement? And why match on attractiveness?

Because when the average person wants to have fun, he or she usually is looking for a gender balanced group with attractiveness levels similar to him/her. Even a tangential experience with greek life or the party scene while in college gives you a pretty good feel for why this is the case. There's actually significant strategy and human capital that gets devoted to achieving a gender balance for your average college event.

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drivebyacct2 5400 days ago
> he or she usually is looking for a gender balanced group with attractiveness levels similar to him/her

is this really the case? I mean, it's hard enough for me to find other gay guys, but if even heterosexuals are established in a forced equal balance solely based on gender... what hope have I?

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timsally 5400 days ago
I have no idea whether gay people prefer a gender balanced group and didn't mean to speak for them in my original comment. I was commenting on the average social event; the gay population, while sizable, does not represent the average case. Of course this means there is an opportunity for arbitrage if a main player neglects the gay community, and Grouper may well be doing just that.
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dools 5400 days ago
"but if even heterosexuals are established in a forced equal balance solely based on gender... what hope have I?"

It's not a date! And when gay guys want to "just have fun" rather than "go on a date" don't you enjoy the company of women just as much as men?

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gotobeach 5401 days ago
You obviously don't know NYC very well. Those first three questions are the exact same questions that went through my mind when I first looked at the hiring practices of the investment bank I work at. So is it a date? No, NY is really the loneliest place in the world. No one there is banging, even if they're obsessed with being surrounded by the most attractive people of the opposite sex.

Their big problem is where they're going to find all of those girls. Only going to get close to those ratios in the Northeast around college towns.

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