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by wolverine876
1638 days ago
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Find a professional to help. Well-meaning people on HN can give you support and compassion, which you need and deserve, but not advice. You wouldn't ask amateurs about fixing a broken bone; this is much more important. A well-meaning perspective, informed by reading professionals: Damaging habits are driven by healthy, legitimate needs; the habits are just bad coping strategies, usually chosen without realizing what the need was. Become concious of the need, have compassion and love for it, and find healthy ways to cope instead of gambling. The need isn't going anywhere but if you take good care of it, it will be fine. Think of it like a child: If the child is tired and hungry and acting out, you can feed it candy bars, you can yell at it, or you can care for it, give it a healthy meal in a safe place, give it love and peace to sleep. You would be aghast at someone who treated the child with candy bars and abuse; that's what bad coping strategies are. Best of luck - we are rooting for you! |
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