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Do you want me to believe that you have been trying to grant me generosity? If you are generous, be generous. Otherwise don’t. It seems like you are blaming me for your failure to appear the way you would like to appear. I am not asking for your generosity, only your honesty.

As for me not understanding you. That’s entirely possible. What is also clear is that you don’t understand what I am saying.

Nobody has projected gatekeeping onto you. That is a word you have just introduced. What gate could you possibly be keeping? Do you have some position of power you haven’t disclosed?

I, and many other commenters here are pointing out the ways you are in speaking for others and generalizing about communities you don’t represent. Perhaps we are wrong, but it seems like about half of us are wrong then, and we have a reasonable disagreement.

As for victimhood, yes, your analogy of not being able to reason about people’s motivations when you are having your face stepped on is indeed a portrayal of victimhood and little else.