[boublepop]

Its just confirmation bias in relationships. If a person really wanted to stay with their SO, they would be saying “omg, our personalities are so incompatible on paper, but we’re just so great together despite that”

But since they want to leave and can’t find a good reason or don’t feel that they can stand by whatever reasoning they have, it becomes “We have to break up because you’re yellow and I’m red” rather than: “we have to break up because I’m shallow and your body doesn’t look like it did when we met” or “we have to break up because after you got fired you haven’t been able to spend as much money on me”. Etc.