[mbilokonsky]

As an Autistic person who recognizes that many friends and interlocutors are also Autistic I can tell you that I have yet to discover a way to so much as suggest people look into it without terrifying and offending them.

A large part of the reason why I do what I do is to offset that reaction and let people recognize themselves in descriptions of the Autistic experience.

[jcims]

Yeah as I was typing it out I knew my 'approach' was horrific, but I still wanted to talk it through.

The strategy you're applying is brilliant and completely sidesteps that defensive reluctance response that seems to stymie so many difficult conversations.