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by wolverine876 1639 days ago
> I've realized that game development is a great coping mechanism to help you feel safe and in control. You are the master of your own universe. For some reason it also helps you feel worthy, like you've accomplished something.

> I'm not saying gamedev is bad, but I think a lot of people unknowingly use it to self-medicate.

Great insight - IMHO, among the most valuable people can have in life. Of course it is not particular to games or development; it's the motivation for many of us doing many things. Some go to the bar and pick up sex partners - or get in fights, some fix up their homes or cars, some knit, some run marathons, some make FOSS, some do drugs, some bully other people or abuse their pets, some play Call of Duty, etc.

I think the trick is to realize what you are doing - coping, feeling some control, etc,. - accepting that it's a good, healthy instinct, and finding a good healthy way to do it. Art is a great outlet, serial sex partners - usually not so much (not judging, just observing).

The fundamental metric is not to get stuck on 'do I feel better while I'm doing it' but to choose based on, 'do I feel better after I do it' and also, 'is the world slightly better after I do it?'.

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Am I missing something on the sex partner comment? Courting consenting adults for fun and pleasure may be done safely and it's a fine creative outlet. For example those on PrEP need to undergo tests four times a year (for HIV and all common STIs) if they want to keep the pill. That's excellent sexual health care if you ask me.
> That's excellent sexual health care if you ask me.

I am talking about emotional health, not physical.

> Courting consenting adults for fun and pleasure may be done safely and it's a fine creative outlet.

Most things can be healthy or not; we are not talking about the actions but, again, the emotions. Cleaning your kitchen can be a healthy outlet; doing it because of OCD seems probably unhealthy. Very generally speaking, serial sexual partners to satisfy needs for control, mastery, security, etc. seems like not the most emotionally healthy solution. (It has nothing to do with sex in particular nor with some puritanical view of it.)