[jdowner]

Being able to better communicate with one another is obviously a good thing. The point is that the language being used isn't facilitating that and that is why the autistic community has pushed back on it. So it seems to me, that it is now on the neurotypical community to listen to that feedback.

Also, autism isn't just about social quirks. These are people with different neurophysiology who experience the world in a different way. It is not simply a matter of holding a different opinion or learning a particular behavior. This is not something that can be 'normalized' by talking through it.

The autistic community is largely against gate keeping, and are quite accepting of people who are self-diagnosed. This is not about not being 'properly' autistic, but about having a voice. Being a part of society for the person you are. To not having the challenges you face in a world defined by and for neurotypical people being trivialized.