[DeusExMachina]

You might think you are helping people, but you are not.

You can't argue against solitude. If people feel alone, it's because they would like to be around others, but can't.

Telling them not to feel that way "just because" is useless, and telling them they should feel like you do because you decided it's better is just condescending.

[FourthProtocol]

Being christmas I feel being charitable is apropos. You're right, and GP means well.

[cblconfederate]

> If people feel alone, it's because they would like to be around others, but can't.

Partly. People may genuinely want to be alone, but the culture spewed by the media says that everyone is social and happy and warm and fuzzy this time of the year, like, they must be, to the point where it's wrong not to be. Hollywood-style culture has done many numbers on society, this is one of them.

[thoms_a]

It depends on your perspective. The extant reality is that we are all alone, although we perform incredible feats of mental gymnastics to convince ourselves otherwise.

OP has decided to simply rip off the band-aid, and accept reality. This is very painful in the short term, but incredible fulfilling in the long-term.

Human existence is individual existence. Human survival is group survival, but that is another matter entirely. Presently, our societies are not structured to incentivize survival (quite the opposite, in fact). The dissatisfaction expressed in this discussion is a result of this dissonance. However, individuals can rarely alter the behavior of society, and as such, investing one's energies in this direction is often destructive. This iteration of society will cease to exist, and the society which survives it will by necessity value relationships and fecundity. However, societies can stay unhealthy far longer than individuals can remain sane. Therefore, it is best to accept solitude, and be pleasantly surprised, than to dread it and suffer.