| It is simply natural/biological. A bit like eating good food or having sex is pleasurable and essential but of course in a different way. Your body is tuned for that and without it you lack something (way more true for females). You might be able to put something in its place, but it might not do the job. Consider that when a men is in presence of youngs kids his hormonal balance change so he become more caring, more in tune to their needs. When they get older that phase out and the kids become more annoying, signaling that it’s time for them to find their way, to distantiate themselves progressively from their parents.
I found out that I cannot stand anymore the kids movie I used to watch with them multiple times when they were younger. I find also that the life in big cities is less conducive to having a family, we tend to think about the space we have (bedrooms) and size of cars to decide on family size where it should go in the other direction. If I was younger I would have move to the country sooner and have four kids instead of just two. I think it give your life meaning to care for people that are going to outlive you. You have to think about their future, how can you help them develop in a good directions, what are their specifics needs to maximize their potential, what did you wish was done for you that you can pass on to them. Female are more tuned to the need for kids. Most of the time they will know the right time and will push enough to make things happen. |