[vidarh]

> Why are men afraid of dating events - https://www.originaldating.com/blog/2015/6/18/why-are-men-af...

This article answers its own question in the rather insulting tone it takes. Why would men go to these events if the women who go there are dismissing most men as not "eligible"? Maybe it's true, but when that is the impression, it helps cement the stigma she describes.

It also, I think gets to the point that where women as described in the article often see thing like speed dating as a "girls' night out", to quote the article, to most men these kinds of events are purely functional. I would have considered going to speed dating events if I didn't find dates in other ways. But it's far down my list of things I'd consider, because it constrains the number of people I can interact with to a set of people where only a small number is likely to interest me from the outset. If your goal is to have a "night out" it might well be productive. If your goal is to meet someone to date, it's only productive if you struggle to introduce yourself and need a crutch to do so. And so you get the guys the article writer describes who have done this because introducing themselves is far out of their comfort zone.