[throwaway8582]

> but far fewer want to have a real relationship with me after I disclose that I’m trans

I'd guess most of the men that are looking for a "real relationship" are doing so because they want to find somebody to have children with, especially at 30+. In general they are not going to invest time and energy into building a relationship with someone that lacks the proper organs to conceive a child.

[wayoutthere]

I’m older than a cis woman would reasonably be expected to be able to conceive without extensive effort. And I’m 100% ok with adopting.