[ryandrake]

Do-Not-Disturb mode on all your devices, 24/7. It stops all notifications, messages, dinging, buzzing, phone calls, everything. Huge, instant, and permanent quality of life improvement. I've been doing it for a few years, now, and I could never go back to life with my phone dinging and lighting up like Reno ever few minutes.

A lot of people think they can't do it (OMG what if I miss that one important call out of thousands?), but I lost that anxiety after about a month. So nice to use my phone on my own terms and review my missed calls when it's convenient for me.

You should be issuing commands to your computer, not the other way around.

[stared]

I have it that way (especially Messenger, Slack). Otherwise, I would go crazy (literally, I get meltdowns from sensory overload).

The problem is that people EXPECT an answer soon-ish. Otherwise, they assume the lack of goodwill. Furthermore, nowadays less and fewer people use longer emails.

In a few workplaces, I committed to answering emails. I clarified that I might not read Slack unless for a pre-arranged meeting. Each time they considered it bizarre yet accepted (since it was a hard requirement from my side).

I hope to set a path for other neurodiverse people who lack such chutzpah.

And, in the company I run, Basecamp is the primary communicator to create an email-like asynchronous communication culture.

[dkdk8283]

I’m militant about disabling notifications. My phone is on silent 24x7 except for certain contacts that bypass DnD. I’ll get to it when I get to it.

[dijit]

I'm also this way: but I can easily see how it's easy to not be.

It feels like every app asks to display notifications; and sometimes I think of how the functionality of the app could be negatively affected. (Uber, for instance, could notify me when my cab is nearby)- but once the power is given they can spam you with self-promotion.

[dkdk8283]

iOS has something called time sensitive notifications which when allowed solve that issue, at least for me.

[silksowed]

did not know i can bypass select contacts through DnD. this will help greatly

[Nextgrid]

DND and similar only delay the problem - the notifications still pile up in the background.

Instead, treat the problem at the source by preventing these notifications from originating or reaching you in the first place. Don't sign up for accounts unless absolutely necessary, don't install apps if possible and if you do then deny notification permissions, and for emails that are technically necessary but don't require your attention set up some email rules to automatically archive them.