| Why is ML easier than social skills? I think because social skills hit your emotions. With that said—some advice. 2 types of social skills: 1 - Approach 2 - Long term / friendship / partnership Both are very different. I'm good at the first, but not great at the second. For the first: 1 - Make sure you are healthy and getting healthier. Fitness first. (I recommend Partner Acrobatics—and once strong enough BJJ. These are also social. Best path to strength is through gymnastics). Get a personal trainer if you can. 2 - Learn to get over rejection. It will happen a bunch—by both males and females. A lot of people—especially older, already have friends. They don't need more. 3 - Join hobby-based groups. What do you really like? Do it with a group. Find a group. And make sure you really like what you do. The energy you give off will bring people to you. For the long term: 1 - Time management is crucial. 2 - Invite people over for dinners 3 - Make sure you plan lots of activites 4 - Make sure you can view social events on your calendar app so you fill every day 5 - Learn to listen. 6 - Learn to follow up with people about really meaningful events / people / projects in their lives and call/see them every 3 months or less. Ideally you can find someone you talk to every day :) And then an ever growing number of people in the other buckets. Good luck!! |
Or other social activities/hobbies. I guess that's why board games are so popular, they allow you to have social interactions while following a very constrained set of rules.
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> 5 - Learn to listen.
This! People want to talk, people feel good if they have the feeling that someone cares for them. Just listening is a great way to make friends.