[v3rt3x]

Or they just don’t want to… I love my kids but I would prefer work to the tedium of dealing with small children or an infant any day. Most men I know just aren’t wired with the ability to tolerate child care. The last few years of “wokeness” can’t undo a few hundred thousand years of evolutionary biology.

[blacksmith_tb]

Or everyone struggles with childcare, men and women both, but men manage to avoid it more in our culture. Obviously there's some biology involved (men can't breastfeed, but bottles are a thing). Doesn't seem crazy that anyone might worry they'll be punished by their bosses for "slacking off" taking care of their kids though, it's pretty well-documented that it certainly takes a bite out of many women's careers[1].

1: https://www.cbc.ca/news/business/women-children-earnings-1.5...

[returnzero]

I'm a software engineer and my peers have always typically been men. I've actually had a different experience where I find being a father rather difficult and outside my comfort zone however most of my male peers don't. They go googly eyed every time a colleague brings their new baby into the office.

I've had to work hard to learn how to be a father including taking the rare opportunity to be a stay at home dad while my wife temporarily returned to work for 14 weeks. Interestingly some of my fellow engineer dads lamented the fact that they couldn't be stay at home parents, even if only for the early years, since they typically earned a lot more than their wives. It just didn't make sense financially for them.

Men taking care of their kids isn't some fad or temporary woke trend. Men have always taken care of their kids but changes in society are now opening up different ways for them to do that.

[talentedcoin]

Pardon my saying so, but what a bunch of horseshit. Don’t blame “evolutionary biology” for your own preferences or those of people around you.

Source: am a dad (on parental leave) who loves spending time with his young kids.

[v3rt3x]

Unlike new mothers, there is no sound biological reason for fathers to require extended paternity leave. Throughout human history, fathers have had an imperative to provide for their families and generally couldn’t afford the opportunity cost of taking an extended paternity leave. If there was a biological reason for this, it would have become culturally enshrined a long time ago there would be no debate on its merits. This a “nice to have” not a “need to have”. Our needs fundamentally arise from biology and thus have evolutionary origins. Saying otherwise because it isn’t convenient is “horseshit”.

[lkschubert8]

Im really struggling to wrap my head around "not being wired for child care". We live in a world full of things that we as humans are obviously not "wired" for as we have created them in the past few hundred years, but the line gets drawn at child care for men?