[nicoburns]

> I find smalltalk with people I don’t really know to be extremely challenging and tiring. And yet with people I do know, or in conversations on topics where I feel confident, I struggle to shut myself up.

FWIW, this pretty much exactly describes an introvert. Being introverted doesn't mean you don't like socialising at all.

[blowski]

There are so many definitions of introvert that it’s mostly lost any meaning.

[zamfi]

Perhaps, but this sounds like what someone who doesn't know many extraverts would say.

If your default preferred way of being isn't "with other people" -- to the point where you feel anxious when you're alone for any reasonable length of time -- you're probably some flavor of introvert?

[blowski]

How many humans even have “default modes”?