[bandyaboot]

I was recently in the job market and there were a few instances where a recruiter would reach out to me, ask if some job opening sounded interesting to me, then ultimately send me their calendly link to book a meeting. It was a little off-putting at first, but that was ultimately resolved with a “get over yourself” internal dialogue moment.

[version_five]

Yeah in that situation, I like to think it really is more efficient and it makes sense to give up preconceptions about etiquette. It seems to me (and I know it's silly) it's fine to use it for more impersonal stuff, but more touchy for scheduling amongst notional peers or people of similar standing, where it sort of automatically signals the requestor is more important than the time picker.

One thing to add, I've actually asked for people to send me a calendly before, I think that's a good social compromise for everyone- it let's me feel like I initiated the transaction, and overall we still get to schedule efficiently.

[musicale]

> it sort of automatically signals the requestor is more important than the time picker

This is precisely the problem with Calendly and why I'd never recommend it.

[chexx]

This is a stretch. How does scheduling a meeting turn into an emotional battle?

[gopher_space]

Ask this again once you've worked for someone who wants to be a manager more than they want to manage people.

[jeffinpdx]

I like that. Ask them for their scheduling link.

[jeffinpdx]

Do you think this would have landed better if the recruiter would have first asked you for YOUR availability before sending their link? Or was it just the act of sending a link of any type that required a click on your part?

[saganus]

I actually find Calendly useful for recruitment interactions.

Even though it might seem like the recruiter's time is more important, to me it feels the opposite.

When recruiters ask for my availability, I need to reserve that availability until they get back to me. Often they ask for 3 to 4 slots of time, which depending on the week, might be hard to find, and then those slots are blocked.

When they send me a Calendly link, I can pick whatever slot works best for me and I then only that slot is blocked for me.

I recently went through an Amazon interview round and I had to send them my availability three times because none of the slots I sent worked for their interviewers, which really wasn't ideal and feels like their time was much more important than mine.

For regular meetings though, unless it's my manager or a higher up, I do agree that it feels like whoever sends the Calendly link is in control.

[bandyaboot]

Yeah I do think that would have helped.