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by dahart
1682 days ago
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Yes applying and practicing the assumption that people are lazy, stupid and insane, does active damage to conversation. The article is actively unhelpful, possibly doing harm. The section titled “What can you do to take advantage” answers it’s question with ‘Nothing, but it makes you feel good.’ That’s a pretty lazy take, and IMO pretty lazy writing. There are ways to take advantage of the negative sides of human nature, and we collectively agree they’re bad for us and sometimes should be illegal. A friend once told me some advice that is a simple rule and can often do wonders in personal conversations, and even when commenting here on Hacker News. He said, “no matter what conclusions your brain tries to jump to about someone, always assume people have something brilliant to offer and that they are amazing in some way. Try to find it.” The article doesn’t disagree, but ironically chooses to focus on the worst. I can confirm from experience that this approach of assuming the best will statistically more often help you win friends and influence people, and that assuming the worst about people will not. |
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