[MauranKilom]

I personally subscribe to the advice given in The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck: You only get to choose your struggles in life. Happiness is the transient feeling in having dealt with a problem. You'll never run out of problems to deal with, therefore, the one thing to care about is what problems you end up engaging with (i.e. "give a f*ck about").

To that end, the ten items presented in the article are decent pointers towards "good" problems you might want to have (and which "bad" problems you'd want to avoid). It's part framing and part steering your life circumstances.

[Rendello]

A family member visited recently and talked about family drama and how she doesn't want to be a part of it. I realized how I had went years without hearing anything about these parts of the family, and that I was being exposed to the drama by way of "I don't want to be involved with the drama". By engaging I was only stoking the drama further, despite the fact that I don't know these people and they don't know me.

Relatedly, I really love this line from Meditations:

A cucumber is bitter. Throw it away. There are briars in the road. Turn aside from them. This is enough. Do not add, "And why were such things made in the world?"

[lgndisgnbdgg]

I have a question. How did you make it through more than 5 pages of that book? It reads like an 8th grader that is trying his hardest to let you know he's cool and smart enlightened as fuck bro and has to curse every other line.

I was cringing so hard in the first pages there is no way I could read it. It reads as a sort of pop culture, edgy (and trendy) mindfulness / Buddhism comboniation in a self help package.

The slew of self help books with sht and fck in the titles after this books success is amusing though.

[MauranKilom]

> How did you make it through more than 5 pages of that book? It reads like an 8th grader that is trying his hardest to let you know he's cool and smart enlightened as fuck bro and has to curse every other line.

Fact check: The author's first mention of himself is on page 10. The word "fuck" first appears on page 5.

Yes, the author uses informal language and sometimes relates personal experiences (but half the stories are of other people). I don't recall any allusions to his own coolness or enlightenedness - in fact, many of his own anecdotes relate to his own failures and lows. He's neither humble nor grandstanding in my eyes, just open and honest (which can be perceived as either, depending on context).

If you already knew all the points he was trying to make - good for you. I can see how someone telling you something you already know in the style of the book can be grating. To me, the book pointed out many things that I knew were true but that I needed spelled out by someone else.

[nicbou]

This book would have made an excellent article. Nonetheless it has a great premise: you can apply the KonMari method to obligations and get rid of the ones that don't spark joy.

Don't confuse it with the similarly titled book with Mark Manson, which reads as if Shia LaBeouf's motivational video was turned into a book.