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To what extent this applies to 12 year olds is to be determined in my case. My kids are younger than that

I think a lot of the "try and restrict and you'll just harm your relationship" stuff comes from 20 somethings whose memories are primarily of their teenage years. There's 12 years before you get to twelve, and we're in a situation where clueless parents are allowing (knowingly or not) their preteen kids to have their own youtube channels and watch Squid Game. (And much worse besides no doubt, those are just a couple of things I know particular kids have been doing.)