| My condolences. I suggest talking with a competent therapist experienced helping people in similar circumstances. “Similar” because your grief is uniquely yours, yet there are therapeutic strategies that tend to help in a broad range of commonality. One of those, which I am touching on here (my beloved has spent an adult life as a clinical social worker) is caring for the caregiver. To be present for your loved ones, you have to be able to be present. Your healthy grieving is important for your loved ones well being. Lastly, from decades as a “hospice spouse,” fighting to the end is not always the right choice for everyone. I am going to die. You are going to die. Everyone is going to die. For some people how they live matters more than how long. And there are people for whom fighting to the end is part of how they live. Sometimes the hard thing is giving a loved one your support for the choice they make. Again, my condolences on your loss. |