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I'll reiterate the suggestion to take leave. If it's available to you, you don't need to take it all at once. I've been taking off every Friday to deal with 'care' issues.

Flexible bosses only get you so far IME. Family Leave is a good way to reassure to people that you still are dedicated to your job, but you have other stuff to deal with - and also that HR has officially reviewed and blessed your situation. It adds an extra level of 'validity' that can shut down speculation that you are just screwing off because you don't care anymore.