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I went through your current situation three years ago, lived for a year or so with my Dad going through treatment and eventually coming to terms with his passing over the two years since, my main piece of advice is that the best way to look after those around you including your mum, is to look after yourself first.

I put a brave face on and tried to support my family putting myself second. When I eventually addressed my own emotions and experience in therapy I realised I was only bringing about 10% of what I could have had a really looked after myself.

If I had that time again, during his treatment, I would have been there more for the brief peaks of his health and not rush back to work knowing the fire was briefly burning less, rather than just being there in troughs when he was less present and alert. Obviously be there for the tough times when your family needs you, but don’t let work take up precious moments you could be having with your mum.

Good luck, wishing you and your mum all the best.