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by dr_orpheus 1693 days ago
I have watched my father battle with cancer for the last couple years. One of the most difficult things for him has been dealing with the things that he can no longer do physically because of the disease/treatment. So we have tried to focus and emphasize the things that he still can do or find replacements for that can still try and bring him the same joy. For example, he was an avid cyclist but can no longer go mountain biking (or really any biking at this point) anymore. So instead we have tried to take more drives in to the mountains to still replicate some of that feeling

In that same line of thinking, grief counselors can be amazing. While grief counselors are typically associated with loss of a person, they have also helped my father with trying to deal with loss of the person he used to be. It has also been helpful to have a counselor or someone similar that is specifically focused on him, rather than all of his other slew of doctors which are more focused on the disease.