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by GimbalLock 1682 days ago
Hi there. I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. I went through it myself not that long ago. It is awful and very painful. The best you can do is be there for your mother and make sure she knows that you're there no matter what. If you have to take time off work to help her, do it. Consider informing your supervisor of the situation and let them know that you may need time to be with her and help her and you'll do your best to communicate with them regarding your availability when that happens.

Things can be very difficult when you're waiting on and interpreting test results. It can be hard to wait as the anxiety will be massive. Meditation seemed to help me, but only to a degree. Try to find things that help you be OK with not knowing, because there may be a lot of that. Walking also helped me.

I'd recommend picking up A Guide to the Good Life by William Irvine as well. He discusses a concept that I was so thankful to know during that time: how to really, truly cherish the people you're with when you're with them. Give your attention to them totally, and understand what they're feeling, what they're wanting, and how you can make them feel loved and make yourself feel like you did the most with the time that you had.

Good luck, I hope things go well for you. Let me know if I can provide any more information.