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I don't think it's that programmers are, on average, less empathetic than "non-programmers/techies/whater." In my experience, it's always been that people who are technically-minded, usually don't have the soft skills to make it look like they care -- without really getting emotionally involved at all. Most people are just trying to go about their day and deal with their problems as they come up. Whether they be financial, emotional, inter-rational, mental, or what have you; everyone is primarily focused on themselves. Most people will feign empathy and side-step such things with some tact, because their livelihoods and current level of comfort relies on other people liking (or atleast tolerating) them. Whereas programmers have a little bit more insulation -- a moat if you will -- for being tactless jackasses, because other people will still tolerate them (for the moment), so long as they ship that code and stay in their caves, away from real people. The same is true about many BB IBankers: what's the point in being a decent human being? You're getting paid fat stacks to brown-nose. The best, most soul-less brown-nosers get rewarded by making MD/VP. Whether or not you have empathy is irrelevant to your compensation, i.e. your comfort and livelihood, i.e. your goals. t. someone who used to be a virulent jackass thinking meritocracy was the be-all, end-all |