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by ljm 1695 days ago
I appreciate the concern but, honestly, it's exhausting to keep fielding 'have you tried...', 'have you looked into...', 'have you explored...' questions.

I get that it comes from a good place, but I'm sharing my experience, not asking for advice.

The best help you and others can offer is to just listen, instead of offering another solution.

There are two replies to me in the 'have you tried' vein. I'm not aiming it at you specifically, just trying to stop a pattern.

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For what it's worth, from at least one person's perspective it's exhausting to just read these replies, as if you or other OPs are eternally naive neophytes with no experience or understanding, or that providing a personal anecdote is automatically, implicitly, and irrevocably requesting advice. This tends to be the case with a lot of medical discussions online, but especially with mental health.

(It would be somewhat better if these questions were asking for advice themselves—"Have you tried $medication? It's been recommended to me and I'm interested in others' experiences"—but it's almost always "Surely you haven't tried ($medication || $lifestyle_change || $religion || just_grow_up()) because I have and it's a panacea.")

Thanks. I just want to share and be heard, and maybe someone can relate.

Good intentions all around, but people need to understand that you're not always someone to be helped or saved. It can feel quite disempowering at times.

I get what you’re saying. The only reason I suggested looking into it is because they are seeing hugely promising results (70%+ reported improving symptoms) but you only have to do a few sessions. It’s not another pill you have to take each morning.