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Beware of men who soapbox about masculinity. Often, they lack confidence and are doing it as a result of their own personal struggles with masculinity. If you value masculinity, look for the "quiet professional" type role models. The ones doing masculine things and not posting brags, rants, and videos on YouTube or social media about it. And do[1] your own masculine things[2]. One positive role model I can refer people to is Pat McNamara on YouTube. He's got tons of "masculine cred" (retired Delta Force operator, killer workout regime and work ethic) but is in touch with his feelings, enjoys gardening and bird watching, and is humorously self-deprecating, which I respect tremendously. https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=pat+mcnamara+ba... 1. If you want to do masculine things. You don't have to. There are a huge variety of people out there and a huge variety of personal and cultural definitions of what being a man, or their particular identified gender, is. 2. My masculine things are BJJ, sewing, cooking (exploring Thai currently), smoking meats, woodworking, not belittling others, and lifting weights. Yours may or may not be different. |