[sneak]

I've user accounts on 3 different servers, run by 3 different groups.

Every single one of them has a configuration, despite a selfhosted instance, that phones home to centralized servers run by your for-profit company.

I'm not sure if this systemic problem is in your config files, your documentation, your defaults, your js client, or what. It's a failing of some part (or multiple parts) of the process.