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by zaptheimpaler
1695 days ago
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overall just understand building a particular habit is not as easy as programming a reminder on your phone, as if programming your phone will program you. since you asked about "habits" in general and not a particular habit, maybe you just want to collect "good" habits instead of genuinely wanting to pursue a particular habit? focus less on reminders/tools/gadgets and more on honestly articulating to yourself - do you even want it, and why do you want it? do you really, really want to meditate? or do you feel like you "should" meditate because its the new health trend? self-coercion will not work in the long run. i felt like i should meditate for a long time, and i never did because i never really knew anything about it besides knowing i "should" do it and surface level junk from reading books. i practice mindfulness more often now because i stumbled into it at a period when i really, really needed it, and now it genuinely feels good. one of the fittest guys i know is that way because he was a fat kid and classmates made fun of him and he hated it. he didn't set out to build a "habit" of exercising. he did not spend a little bit of time "researching the topic and its benefits". no, he went to the gym on and off for a while. after a year, he was addicted to how good it felt and spent literally hours daily watching videos on form and obsessing over eating the right thing etc. that is what intrinsic motivation looks like. if you were really motivated to meditate, you would not just skip a few sessions and forget about it in a week - that just means you weren't really motivated to meditate anyways (which is ok by the way! you don't need to adopt every good habit some blogger/media posts about). just saying there is a big difference between "wanting to want" something and actually wanting it. |
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