[gnicholas]

I'd highly recommend the Hidden Brain podcast When Did Marriage Become So Hard?. [1]

It goes into detail on how much we expect from our spouses, and how these expectations put pressure on a marriage. Couples who are able to get all of these benefits are super happy, but for many couples it's prudent to realize that historically we've not expected so many things from our spousal relationships. This realization allows couples to adjust their expectations for what a marriage is supposed to provide, and give them permission to have some of their social or other needs met by friends/colleagues/etc.

1: https://www.npr.org/2018/02/12/584531641/when-did-marriage-b...