I'm not trying to be an ass; everyone you know had to go thru the same thing. That Unix greybeard wizard who types 900 wpm and knows every EMACS command? They were once in your exact position.
Seconded. Touch typing is a skill that can only be aquired by, well, touch typing. If you practice, you'll get there, but you do have to practice, and you do have to let yourself forgive the mistakes (just go back and fix them, then carry on). But resist the temptation to return to hunt-and-pecking or to watching your fingers as you type. Your eyes should be looking where the characters appear on screen as you type, not looking at your fingers.
Thirded, and just wanted to say that it requires maintenance, too. I quit programming professionally and use the computer quite infrequently compared to before--my WPM dropped 20-30, from ~110 to ~80-90.
80 isn't a bad number, but touch-typing is definitely a muscle memory skill that needs exercised.