[HolidayguyNOR]

I agree. There are also huge individual differences. I have a military background and we generally don't "gift wrap" our feedback. "This bad because X" is constructive, helpful and to the point, and it doesn't mean that the person receiving the feedback is incompetent. Some people seem to take it that way.

Accepting failure is integral to learning and growth, but a key part of that is identifying the weak points and learning from them.

Edit: s/gift wrap/sugar coat