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You gotta do it. The psych test is long (3-4 hours) but it's easy and worthwhile.

For me, obtaining a diagnosis (finally, at age 41) was extremely helpful on its own. Remember that if you have a diagnosis, you are not obligated to medicate. With my diagnosis in hand I was prescribed Strattera, which is not a stimulant like Adderall. It is demonstrably helpful, but not mind-blowingly effective. You should get checked out for anxiety and depression too. Living with ADHD causes one to develop anxiety and depression, which can be more detrimental. I've been on citalopram since about age 30. I also work with a talk therapist once a week. Getting help for anxiety, and the SSRI medication especially has made all the difference in my professional life. I had the severe kind of dysfunction you're experiencing and over the course of a few months on those meds I became the confident and productive team leader I wanted to be. Interestingly, it wasn't until becoming the parent of a child with ADHD that I was curious about investigating it for myself. Best of luck :)