| And third, discussions are at least two way affairs. Often, moderation is seen as the objective parent that keeps everything in bounds. The reality is, our individual boundaries very considerably. We all have a shared responsibility to not allow discussions to go bad, and how we respond to text we don't like determines whether they go bad. Fact is, very few of my discussions go bad, because I don't allow it. Importers not allowing it is not worrying about the downvotes, and instead focus on what I can control. And I control me, not anyone else in the discussion. Someone tells me to fuck off here for example, I'm going to ask him why. I'm also going to advise him to edit that away before they get down voted, because we've got more productive things to talk about. There are many similar ways to handle these things, in very few people actually employ them. I feel spending time on that is as productive, if not more than time on more effective moderation. |