[maceurt]

Love how media consistently ignores male struggles with body dysmorphia even though it is just as big an issue for them as for females. Just look at how many men know take steroids nowadays, and the sad part is most people aren't aware that these people are even taking steroids and think it is naturally achievable body type. I have had conversations with people who are unwilling to believe even the Rock is on something. Lets keep watching the suicide rates climb for the lost boys as we cry about the slightest affront to women. Boys are held responsible for the oppression of women, which they weren't even alive to remember, and inherent none of the privilege or benefits. Male dysmorphia is ignored or supported (i.e. big dick energy), Male on Male rape is a joke (don't drop the soap), Female on Male rape is sex (look up snl Pete Davidson & Rounda Rousey), Female on Male domestic violence doesn't exist (Duluth model), Mens rights is sexist, Male virginity is toxic (incel), Male exclusive groups or friendships are boys clubs, Male perceived sexual failure is to be mocked (cuck), Male feminity is a weakness (soy boy), and a Male's duty is to protect females.

Sick and tired of this world. Hope somebody else has the energy to fight, because I know I don't.

[hsn915]

I'm not really onboard with everything you say, but:

> Male virginity is toxic (incel)

This is the one that gets to me the most.

Being involutary celibate, or even just having a dry run for a long time, is kind of like hell for a man. I'm not sure if women are capable of just appreciating how painful it is (judging by comments I read on line, they think it's a joke). Even men who have regular sex don't understand it, or quickly forget what it was like.

> Male feminity is a weakness (soy boy), and a Male's duty is to protect females.

These are not bad things. Male's duty is to protect. Not females as a class: the females and children in your family (wife, sister, mother).

In fact, this is the thing that gives meaning to your life. If you're not capable of protecting your family, what are you good for? I'm not saying this as an attack. I'm saying that this is the internal voice in every man's head.

[kibbleble]

First of all, there's plenty of whores if you think sex is a human right. Prostitution is the oldest profession. If we normalize sex work, people can meet demand without getting shamed. Who's trying to do that? Mostly feminists if you ask me.

[maceurt]

They say one thing and do the other. For example: In many feminist countries being a prostitute is legal but soliciting a prostitute isn't. Its meant to protect prostitutes which I 100% understand, but it is a double standard that stigmatizes the use of prostitution while also putting those who utilize it in real danger. I am not arguing for legalized prostitution, and I do not think anybody has the right to sex, however I think that it is wrong to shame and humiliate somebody for a lack of sexual success.

[tyrfing]

It's absurd how much people deny PED [1] use. It's pervasive and an open secret in basically any context where men are shirtless: actors, models, MMA fighters, bodybuilders, etc. Even law enforcement and firefighters.

The closest someone like The Rock gets to admitting using them starts with "one time in college...". When even his use is a debate, good luck convincing someone that a slightly smaller actor gaining 25 lbs of muscle in a few months isn't normal. As they happily tell you in interviews, gaining muscle like that is just a matter of working out 6 hours a day and only eating broccoli, chicken, and rice.

1. "Steroids" isn't very accurate. Other things like HGH and SARMs are common, and steroids these days would often be called "testosterone replacement".

[ajsnigrutin]

Yep, it' sad we (as a society) have left boys behind, and advocating for them makes you a target of feminists, a sexist and many other nasty words.

[bittercynic]

I don't want to argue that these aren't real problems, but I don't think they're universal, and there are settings where people aren't out to insult and attack one another.

Additionally, if you can become part of a supportive social circle it is much easier to have an attitude like: "There's a lot of trouble in the world, but lets enjoy life where we can and be kind to one another while pushing for positive change where possible."