[PonyGumbo]

>They typically state that they live far away because they don't want work to consume their lives

People typically have long commutes because they a) can't find suitable employment within a reasonable distance of their existing home, or b) can't afford to live within reasonable distance of where they work. Not everyone can simply pick up and move. In a two-income household, it's a balance in commute distance for both parties. Some people would rather commute an hour for work and live near family. Some people simply can't sell their homes. I've never, however, heard anyone say that they live far away because they don't want work to consume their lives.

[Mz]

Well, you and I clearly know different people. The most common reason I have been given for a long commute to work is that they don't want to live near their job. I am well aware that in two income families and other situations, sometimes compromises are necessary. But I know people currently and have known people in the past who really were free to choose and freely chose a long commute, not because they had to for any of the reasons you cite. And I have also known people who complained bitterly about the cost of gas and other burdens of living with a long commute who blew off (as in dismissed without a real reason) any and all suggestions for trying to improve the situation. After a while, I stop being sympathetic.