[jseban]

Daily standups, weekly retros and weekly 1-on-1:s. Those are the ones that bother me the most, the micromanagement around planning, I can deal with. But the creepiness of these other vague "Hey, I'm your friend, we can just talk" type of meetings are too much for me. And this trap of "giving feedback" and whenever you do, you get punished and marked for no promotion, immediately, it's just loyalty checks masked as something else "this meeting is for you" uhmm, can I just go back to work please?

[mLuby]

Stand-ups can be a drag. My last stand-ups were literally 3-5 minutes, which I attribute to everyone working on long-running project where we all either knew what "Today I'll be fooing the bar" meant or knew it wasn't important to know. And we were very good about mentioning but not discussing problems during that meeting; they'd be dealt with "off-line" (so to speak).

Retrospectives can also be good when they're focused on how to improve processes (including Agile's). If it's just a venting session, that can become demoralizing, even caustic. There's also value in not having certain people in the room, so they can't get defensive or cause people to clam up.