[HKH2]

> One tip to do this well is to rephrase what the person just said and ask if that's what they meant.

So you're saying we should start sentences with "So you're saying..."?

[scns]

It gives the other person the feeling that you actually listen to what they are saying IMHO.

[sojournerc]

With the addition that it must be done in good faith. If you only create straw men arguments for your opponent, you haven't tried to get to the bottom of their reasoning.

[mental1896]

This is key. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Principle_of_charity

[Gadiguibou]

Haha, yes, you're right!